Classic Stepmother Complaints
Copyright 2005 Jeannette Lofas, The Stepfamily Foundation, Inc.

These are common complaints heard by most Stepmothers, All of these issues can be overcome.

"Everyone in his life, his kids, his former wife, and his business, come before me."

"He expects me to treat them as if I were their own mother, but then doesn't let me be a mother."

"I want a child of my own, and he's had enough."

"His ex calls and he jumps to her commands. It seems as though she  has more influence on him than anybody."

"My money goes to support this family because his money goes to take care of her and them."

"His former wife never says thank you for any of the things I do."

"The children treat me like the maid; I'm expected to do everything that their mother  would do for them, but  without the respect they would give to her. Even the cleaning lady gets more appreciation than I do."

"He believes that buying them something, or entertaining, is fathering."

"Guilt runs his relationship with the children."

"His children say the meanest things to me, and my husband defends them and tells ME I'm overreacting."

"I think I'm becoming the "cruel" stepmother."

"The worst of it is, when his children come over we have no sex life."

Copyright 2005 Jeannette Lofas, The Stepfamily Foundation, Inc.