Stepfathers Classic Complaints
Copyright 2005 Jeannette Lofas, The Stepfamily Foundation, Inc.
 

These are common complaints heard by most Stepfathers and all of these issues can be overcome.

"Here she was alone with those kids, I come in to put some order in the place . . . and they all reject me."

"I can't teach them what they need to learn from a man. She doesn't support me."

"She always jumps to the kids' defense when I correct them. She's turning her boys into wimps."

"She says I'm too tough. Kids who misbehave need someone to be tough with them."

"I give her kids the gift of my time and no one says thank you."

"They're fresh, don't help her, and never, unless I raise my voice, listen to me."

"A man has to be King of his Castle. I feel like the house boy."

"It's her house, the kids were there before me, and they let  me know that."

"My wife treats me like an outsider when it comes to the kids."

"They need a man around here, and she and they won't let me be one!"

"I buy the kids stuff and they hardly say thank you."

"She has been too busy with her job to be a mother."

"There is so much tension in the house when the children are here."

"I love her so much when we're alone and they're at their father's house."

"People write about the plight of the stepmother. What about the stepfather?"

"Who acknowledges what I'm really feeling emasculated in my own home."

"I feel like a third wheel when I'm with her and her kids."

"I'm not the head of this house; the kids run it and she lets them."

"I must come first for this to work."

Copyright 2005 Jeannette Lofas, The Stepfamily Foundation, Inc.